Never gesture is isolated

What impressions?

What impressions of ourselves have we generated in the minds of others? Do we know them?

It is never easy to teach, it is never easy to learn, and it is never easy to remember. What is the moment when a gesture accentuates a decision, and what is the moment when it generates a mistake? Does it depend on who is watching us? Can we influence our interlocutor’s attitude before he judges us? Can we notice his attitude first and modify our gesture? Body language in defense and offense has many premises and many consequences. No single gesture is isolated and will remain isolated.

What is certain is that our gestures and expressions are always present, are part of our words, and are complements of our thoughts.

And equally so are they for our interlocutors. No one in front of us can prevent body language from being hidden.

no gestures?

Body Language. Never gesture is isolated
body language no gesture

Of course, not even in a remote meeting with the camera off or in a phone call. There will always be elements of body language that will “speak” along with your words. Don’t forget that. There will be haste and anxiety, artificial over-control, as well as a natural calmness. There will be timbres of voice, emphasis in sentences, and repetition of words. All this is part of body language.

Even a letter or chat is not immune. Between the lines and words, you can read a lot if you are trained, and especially if you know there are these messages. Never look with blinders that focus only on words. Never.  

And it doesn’t end there. If our interlocutor understands that we can read them and identifies us as people who pay attention to these details, then, if he is familiar with these techniques, he will use them to set traps for us or steer our thinking.


A chessboard

Let us now return to a comment we made at the beginning: a gesture is never isolated. Here, a gesture of ours is not forgotten; it begins its work of creating interest and curiosity in our interlocutor. It kindles in him a spy that slowly works and, in his mind, remains a feature of ours, as if we had delivered to him a particular color that he now mixes with the figure of us that is arising in his mind. As if by our gesture we have handed him a red…and as we strive to explain our thought to him as a painting with colors we desire, he mixes a little red into it and changes the essence of our narrative. Too bad that, in the end, in his mind, what remains is his personal impression of our description, not our true description.

Avoiding this is not possible, but it is possible to mitigate the risk, or to use this to our strength as an additional element to guide, since it is now present and we know it. As well as knowing this, when we listen and look at him, we have to be good impartial judges and know what we listen to, how we listen, and how many sources of information we have in front of us besides a mouth that makes sounds and words.

body language like a chessboard. Your body plays with you
body language like a chess game

Although this may seem complicated, because too many variables are in play at the same time, it actually becomes controllable over time. But it takes knowing and practice; it takes putting ourselves out there and reviewing ourselves and others from other angles. getting used to doing so, not trusting one direction of understanding.

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